Spend as much time building your confidence as you do
building your business.
I took my kids to a circus skills workshop and my eldest decides to have a go at the tightrope. It was a little disappointing that the tightrope was only a few feet off the ground but it was high enough to make it feel like an achievement if you made it to the other side and a little scary if you fell off. The tightrope coach held his hand for the first two efforts, giving him some tips before he boldly went into the stretch zone and had a go on his own.
What do you think her most critical piece of advice as the tightrope walkers?
"HEAD UP! EYES UP! FOCUS ON THE OTHER SIDE NOT YOUR FEET."
This is one of the best metaphors we’ve discovered for business and life.
The reason we get sometimes get stuck is we get overwhelmed by the situation we’re in (STARING AT OUR FEET) and forget to focus on the outcome we really want (THE PLINTH AT THE OTHER END OF THE TIGHTROPE).
Which of these lists gives you energy and excitement and which gives you a feeling of paralysis?
Confidence is a game changer.
You can have an average product or service and a SUPER CONFIDENT entrepreneur and it will become a successful business. But if you have a brilliant product or service but the entrepreneur isn’t feeling confident then success will be harder to find.
Two footballers standing side by side with identical skills, physical attributes and ambition. One is more confident than the other. Which one would you back to get picked for the team?
Here are eight things you can do to send your confidence through the roof:
1. Choose to hang with people who BOOST YOUR CONFIDENCE
Not drain it!
Hang around with eagles, learn how to fly.
Hang around with alley cats and spend your days scratching in the dirt.
2. Begin with end in mind
As Stephen Covey famously said in his life-changing book Seven Habits of highly effective people. But what does this mean? First you have to actually begin.
Take some action – you’ll get lots of confidence from that.
Then get the end in your mind – create a dream picture of what life will be like when you’ve got the success you want.
Where will you go? Where will you live? What car will you drive? Whose life will you change?
3. Have a mantra
Language is such a powerful tool. Imagine the impact if you told yourself self five times every day something like this:
Every day I’m working on my confidence. I know that if I look more confident and feel more confident it will have a huge positive impact on my business. I believe in myself and this will help everyone I meet to believe in me. I know I can do this.
4. Have a Soundtrack
Wake up tomorrow morning and try make a phone call to potential customer straight away. Then put Nirvana’s Smells Like Teen Spirit** on volume setting 397, jump around the room and notice how much more capable you feel to take on the world in your altered state.
** Insert your own track if Kurt and the boys don’t do it for you;
e.g. Whitney Houston - Dance With Somebody,
House of Pain - Jump Around.
I’d probably avoid Celine Dion songs.
5. Eat a frog
That thing you keep putting off is slowing down the computer in your brain. Imagine how fantastic you’ll feel after you’ve solved that problem.
6. Sell something
Nothing more confidence boosting than having cash in your hands as a result of selling something to someone.
7. Walk tall
Your physiology directly affects how you feel. Go find a depressed person and look at their body shape.
Now go look at the most confident people on the planet and look how they stand. Look at the position of their chin, their shoulders and their back.
I guarantee that if you walk to the bus stop as if you were Barack Obama you’ll feel invincible by the time you show your pass to the driver.
8. Get uncomfortable
Everything you want in life is outside your comfort zone – otherwise you’d already have it.
Stretch yourself – make those calls, send those emails, talk to strangers, ask the barista on a date, sit and talk to the homeless guy, high five the bus driver, tell strangers they’re beautiful.
Take off the stabilisers and go for it.